tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post3155047298005304079..comments2023-08-29T12:58:53.386-04:00Comments on Too XYZ (Archives): "Because it's there?" Not for Introverts.Ty Unglebowerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06836504600859993438noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post-50800363177691315892011-07-10T01:29:42.919-04:002011-07-10T01:29:42.919-04:00This article is so timely for me and completely on...This article is so timely for me and completely on the money. I still struggle to find that "sufficient reason" to speak up in group settings and go out and do things. The exceptions are work and rec sports. Playing sports has been extremely helpful for me to come out of my shell. I think as an introvert I've become good at working independently but I know I don't want to be alone forever.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post-22422493324450393842011-06-30T11:15:33.797-04:002011-06-30T11:15:33.797-04:00Brigid...
Thanks for stopping by. I have not read...Brigid...<br /><br />Thanks for stopping by. I have not read the Introvert Advantage, but it comes highly recommended from several introverts I know, so it looks like I am going to have to put that one on my "To Read" list!Ty Unglebowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06836504600859993438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post-13110860149222275512011-06-30T10:24:50.998-04:002011-06-30T10:24:50.998-04:00Great post, Ty. I think of being an introvert in t...Great post, Ty. I think of being an introvert in terms of my energy. It drains energy to be with people (as opposed to extroverts, who gain energy from being with people), so I am very choosy about how I will expend my energy. This leads to exactly what you say: I need there to be something defined I'm getting back to it that's worth the energy drain.<br /><br />Have you read the Introvert Advantage?<br /><br />I also find it interesting the numbers of introverts who love acting.Brigidhttp://www.brigidslipka.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post-62341832996839650562011-06-24T15:42:05.199-04:002011-06-24T15:42:05.199-04:00Thankls, Marc, for your comments. I take a similar...Thankls, Marc, for your comments. I take a similar approach to your own, in regards to the stakes being the prevention of a lonely, isolated existence.<br /><br />Sometimes being introverted, and seeing all the extroversion out there can cause me to want to vanish even further into introversion. Inside my head, where I may be a lone, but things make some degree of sense sometimes. Then I remind myself that there have to be other people out there who view the world and feel things in similar ways, and I try to find them. Too XYZ is in fact one such way I do so.Ty Unglebowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06836504600859993438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post-33774036592374533442011-06-24T01:08:45.727-04:002011-06-24T01:08:45.727-04:00Ty, you characterize being an introvert extremely ...Ty, you characterize being an introvert extremely well. I've always been one too. At work, I can being outgoing and make a presentation with the best of them, but the minute I get out a structure that requires me to interact, I (deeply) enjoy my private time. <br /><br />I consider that a healthy balance. The problem comes when I'm between contracts, because then being an introvert becomes destructive. I become less creative, I go to greater lengths to avoid things. <br /><br />I worry about not having friends as I get older. I watch man-movies about friendship and pine for what they have. <br /><br />So I tell myself there is a crisis brewing and I must get out to keep from sliding deeper. To me, these ARE the "highest of stakes", as you aptly phrased it. <br /><br />I believe there is a way to network in a way that is less painful - that's to focus on people you like. The really outgoing types appear to build relationships with quantities of people. What I've found works for me is to find one person I genuinely like to hang out with - and maybe follow them to groups of people that they like. <br /><br />Sometimes that creeps people out (the downside), and sometimes you never meet someone you really get along with. I just feel that networking amongst people I like is far easier, far more effective (because I enjoy it) and... necessary.Marc Shimanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16637377161873130984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post-11038008601454173262011-06-23T15:06:58.853-04:002011-06-23T15:06:58.853-04:00Good post, as usual. I realized this about myself ...Good post, as usual. I realized this about myself this weekend at a Father's Day church picnic. Although I dreaded going & as I already shared with you, I even risked certain damnation & bribed my youngest to feign terminal illness to get me out of it. I ended up enjoying it for the very reason you just wrote about. Basically because I found "something to do" rather than sit around & attempt meaningless conversation. I joined in a game of volleyball for a couple of hours which kept my mind & body engaged & focused. I also find I survive painfully uncomfortable parties, weddings & other special occasions if I also have something creative to do, such as helping put it together, designing the theme, keep the food coming or being the photographer. So I agree that having a purpose to it makes all the difference for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post-67121379673001498292011-06-23T15:01:39.932-04:002011-06-23T15:01:39.932-04:00Thanks, "Boot". And I think so many peop...Thanks, "Boot". And I think so many people miss the concept BECAUSE it is so straight forward and simple. They fly right over it because some people just have a need to always be moving, bouncing off of a wall or running their mouth that they miss what is right in front of them.<br /><br />I too tend to feel my worst right before I start certain things. Driving to an interview I have to conduct is usually worse than actually conducting it.<br /><br />By the way, if you think it would help, feel free to send this link to your boss ;)Ty Unglebowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06836504600859993438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post-34408418701887439782011-06-23T14:40:31.298-04:002011-06-23T14:40:31.298-04:00Great, Ty! It seems a pretty simple and obvious co...Great, Ty! It seems a pretty simple and obvious concept, but that is what makes it so easily overlooked. As I get more into managing employees, I've been interested in knowing how better to motivate people (since we are all different animals) and this one it completely on target for introverts. <br /><br />This post, though, I should send to my boss in order to understand ME. People always say, "Oh, you're introverted? I would have never guessed!" To which I feel like responding, "Because I'm not fidgeting and flushed and look like I'm about to vomit right now?" It's the close-to-vomit feeling that happens BEFORE having to talk to people but I can certainly handle it if the need arises. <br /><br />If I have a really good reason, such as networking for a better job, getting someone to help me with a project that I cannot finish on my own, or making sure my fiance feels like he can bring me places and not babysit me...those are more than enough reasons to suppress the anxiety and just do it. <br /><br />Well done, sir.The Boothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04505271507919141430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post-65724875765675399632011-06-23T14:21:47.262-04:002011-06-23T14:21:47.262-04:00Glad you enjoyed the post! And yes, that sounds li...Glad you enjoyed the post! And yes, that sounds like the kind of conversation I like to be having at a party. But you are correct, so few people appreciate the importance of such anymore.Ty Unglebowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06836504600859993438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-637372924851105604.post-55477168483070629812011-06-23T14:12:49.103-04:002011-06-23T14:12:49.103-04:00Good post, Ty! I always feel like you are writing ...Good post, Ty! I always feel like you are writing directly to me. In instances - like parties - I tend to "come out of my shell" only if there is a meaningful conversation going on. Something with depth and not just - hey did you see such and such movie. Recently actually, I had the deepest 3 hr discussion with 3 other ppl at a party about all sorts of things. It was the best conversation I've had in a long time. Not something many people are willing to do anymore.Barbie (@grumpywienerdog)noreply@blogger.com